Lml/mem optimize (#4725)

* add memory detect info

* small fix in opattrref optimize

* use bitset

* refactor using vector

* refine

* refine

* rename

* refine

* address review

* address review

* refine

* refine

* address review

* smaller BITSET_SIZE

* refine

* refine

* refine

* refine nameing

* refine

* refine

* refine

* update

* delete swp file

* small update

* format fix

* format modify

* format modify

* Update compiler.cpp

fix for comment

* Update reshape_user_op_util.cpp

bug about reshape is fixed

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