Bond support + fixing various action server issues (#1894)

* prototype of lifecycle bond system

* adding more structure to get around weak ptr issue

* working prototype for manager

* adding some ns -> s conversions

* changing to service node

* adding bond connections to all servers

* update logs

* fixing review comments

* fix types

* remove extraneous functions

* make linters happy

* simplifications

* adding spinner to get working but now unstable

* moving bond connections to activate state

* adding defaults

* working complete prototype for review

* update dependencies

* adding connection logging

* remove accidental file

* fix server side timeout for heartbeats

* adding complete unit coverage of bond support

* fixing lifecycle test

* trying to activate since autostart was removed